Once in a conference on gender issues n petriarchy i said..
heroism has no gender..a female can b a hero far much better than a man...indeed being so much dedicated n diversified she is as maintaining the whole house, family than working outside that too keeping the softness n ... See Morefeminish attitude in touch...while working in office i would love to b respected as a women with all my innocence , softness n limits (crossing which is harrasment ) n i want all equal rights but when it comes to duty performance ..decision making n right to choose..i dont wanna be judged as women...than i am equally responsible n legible human being only....:) n if any one denies oit than he is a conservative petriarchan n who ever accepts it ..is a feminist .... :))
i can explain it further by Donne
in one of his poem..he says that no doubt man is active n woman is passive..as compared n contrasted with a Compass...whose fixed hand is women & rotating hand( all in action ) is man...but rotating hand cant move n complete action without falling apart untill fixed hand is fixed there for him.. :)
so women is ... See Moresource of all energy , posiotivity . insipiration n firmed actions or loyalities n emotins of a man.... a complementary part whether active passive...n not to miss petriarchy too is successful becuse of objecting womenb cx they need her any way ....and what is to worry or negate in it is going away from laws of Nature...
as in all other worlds..esp animal..the male partners has to prove themselves as perfect match for a female by competing .fighting till death, presenting food, raising highest voices building a home, or simply by dancing ( as in pea cocks pic ) before
female members to be accepted n get approval from her n how inspiring is the fac that female members of their society has all the rights to choose n decide...where they as couple share burdens n divide work- including searching for food n taking care of chicks _without any gender discrimination or division discussion...
sometimes i wonder why a, besides some rare cases, it is a man who can never move without a women.. . either as a mother, sister wife or companion..after the death of wife mostly they marry again in name of children';s betterment ..then how come widows along with laboring outside brings the children up all alone not marrying again..??? this shows the strength n power of a women as hero, active social member n as a most multi dimensional personalty that too retaining the feminine recognition ...a source of solace , companionship, comfort but more a power, strength n inspiration
Dear Friend,
ReplyDeleteHowever what u have discuss above are the facts and realities but why cant we saw that facts from positive angle......
ofcource heroism has no gender and any one can fit in that frame without any favour
Islam has given equal rights without favouring any gender and we beleive in it thoroughly, we give respect to them as well...by obeying our mothers, by loving our sisters, by protecting our wives and daughters with dignity....both genders are necessary 4 each other so both have equal rights as well but have different field of works so they should stick together with their fields otherwise result will be a clash.
well said sir...?
ReplyDeletehats off to you for ur such kind of balanced n practical thought...of cource u voiced my stance n views...bt dear how many more people beleive n think like that....???? just in fractiuons...so they should b made realized with cmnts n views like this of cource not for me but for the women as daughter, sister n wife n more in their circle........ :)
Hey Nomana, I think that if men and women accept eachother with our own special gifts..for there is no denying that generally we do function differently...but if we understand and respect eachother for the different gifts ways of doing things men and women have to offer and realise that both ways support the other, both ways are as important as the other and actually the world can not function in balance without the other...the masculine and the feminine are supposed to be in balance and when it is a family, an office, a friendship, a relationship, the world will live joyously :)
ReplyDeleteHi Nomana, I read your articles this week, and enjoyed your views. Especially your take on feminism, and on modernity and rootlessness. It's always a great joy to know what are the perspectives in Pakistan, and despite more than a year of knowing a few friends from Pakistan, I still tend to get surprised when I realise that the issues on both sides of the border are quite similar. For example, the women's issue. Or, for that matter, road block on way to your office. As to language, well I must confess I belong to 'old school', and so it took me some time to understand some of your phrases. Keep me posted,
ReplyDeleteCheers,
Meha :INDIA