Indian community torn apart by 'honour killings'

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/world/south_asia/10334529.stm

BBC News, Delhi Satvati Satvati shows the house where the killings took place

Umesh Kumar and his wife Satvati Devi were woken in the middle of the night by loud cries coming from the neighbouring house.

"She was crying loudly. She was pleading, 'Kill me, but please don't hurt him.' She loved him and they wanted to get married," Ms Devi tells me.

Two days after teenage lovers Asha and Yogesh were brutally killed, Swaroop Nagar colony on the north-western outskirts of the Indian capital, Delhi, is still trying to come to terms with the tragedy.

Asha's family was opposed to a marriage because Yogesh belonged to a different, lower caste. Police have described the murders as a case of "honour killing".

They have arrested Asha's father and uncle in connection with the deaths and are looking for others.

In this poor, semi-rural community, tiny homes sit cheek-by-jowl and paper-thin walls offer little sound-proofing.
'Tied up'

When the cries on Sunday night became unbearable, Mr Kumar tried to intervene.

"When I went in, Yogesh was tied up in ropes. He had bruises all over him. And they were beating Asha," Umesh tells me.

"They" were Asha's uncle Omprakash Saini, her father Suraj Saini, their wives and her cousin, he says.
Continue reading the main story Titoo Saini

Honour in our community and society is paramount to us

Titoo Saini

"I tried to save the girl, but they pushed me around. They broke my spectacles. They told me not to interfere since it was an internal family matter."

The Sainis also warned Mr Kumar against calling the police.

"I don't have a phone, the pay phone booths are closed at night, and the other neighbours were too scared to get involved," Mr Kumar says.

The cries finally stopped at 4am. Ms Devi was sitting outside her front door when the Sainis came out, locked the house and left.

"We were wondering what happened to Asha and Yogesh," she says. "There were no more sounds from inside."

The bodies were brought out in the morning once the police arrived. And details began to emerge of the torture and beatings to which the young couple were subjected.
No remorse

"Their mouths were stuffed with rags, there were signs of beating and small burns on legs suggesting that they were possibly electrocuted," a senior police officer who was the first to reach the crime scene told the BBC.

Asha's uncle and father were arrested but the two men have shown no remorse.

"I'm not sorry," a defiant Omprakash Saini told reporters after his arrest. "I would punish them again if given a chance."
Continue reading the main story Meera devi

If they wanted to kill their daughter, that's okay. But they shouldn't have killed our boy

Meera Devi

The killings have stunned Delhi. Cases of "honour killings" are regularly reported from the neighbouring states of Punjab, Haryana and western Uttar Pradesh, but in the capital they are uncommon.

Assistant commissioner of police Pankaj Kumar Singh, who is posted at Swaroop Nagar, says that although the area is part of the capital, the mindset of its people is the same as in the villages.

"A majority of the people here are migrants from Uttar Pradesh and Bihar states. People here are deeply rooted in their traditional beliefs," Mr Singh says. "Caste considerations hold much sway."

In traditional Indian societies, women are often regarded as family property. Marriages are carefully arranged by parents and elders and relationships outside of caste are frowned upon.

But proximity to the city and access to education often bring in modern influences, sometimes creating a conflict between traditional beliefs and modern aspirations in the minds of the young.

And these sometimes have fatal consequences, as in the case of Asha and Yogesh. Although her family is no better off than his, it is from a higher caste.

There are no statistics on the number of "honour killings" in India, but Mr Singh says for every case that gets recorded, several others go unreported.

In the Gokulpuri area of north-east Delhi where the lovers lived and met, I visited the homes of both Asha and Yogesh, five minutes apart.

A group of local women sit mourning outside Yogesh's house. His sister, Renu Jatav, weeps inconsolably.
'Justified'

"I had no idea this could happen," she says. "He was having dinner, it was 9.30pm on Sunday when Asha's mother came and called him. Yogesh was a driver. She said someone needed the car, and he went."

"Four or five policemen came to our house the next morning. They said Yogesh had died," Renu's husband Rakesh Kumar says.
Renu Jatav Renu Jatav is inconsolable over the murders

"We want strict punishment for them. We want the death penalty. We want them hanged."

The neighbours vouch for Yogesh's character.

"He was a very good boy," one of them, Meera Devi, says. "We are very angry. We want justice. If they wanted to kill their daughter, that's okay. But they shouldn't have killed our boy."

At Asha's home, her relatives are equally angry.

Cousin Lokesh Kumar Saini says: "We had talked to Yogesh and his family in the past and told them to stay away. We had also found a good match for Asha and she was engaged.

"What will any parent do if they see their daughter in a compromising position with a man? What would you do if you were in the same situation?" he asks me angrily. "That's why my uncles killed them."

Another of Asha's uncles, Titoo Saini, is convinced "the killings were justified".

"We did it for our honour. Honour in our community and society is paramount to us," he says.

I ask them what honour the family has now that they are accused of murdering their own daughter?

"If she had run away with Yogesh, what honour would we have left then?" he asks.

"Moreover, that would have set a bad precedent for the other children in the family. They would have done the same. Then it would have been a slow and painful death for us every living moment. This is better," he says.

"Asha played in my arms as a baby. I carried her for her funeral. Did that not make me unhappy?"

But Titoo Saini is clear that marriage outside of caste is a bigger evil than murder.

"How can we marry outside the caste? This cannot be tolerated. Only an impotent man will accept this. If I was in their place, I would have done the same," he say

क्य्र्गय्ज्तन....लिनक्स तो थे issue :kyrgyztan

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/world/asia_pacific/10315347.stm
in urdu.....
http://www.bbc.co.uk/urdu/pakistan/2010/06/100614_why_study_kyrgyztan.shtml

http://www.jang.com.pk/jang/jun2010-daily/15-06-2010/u34805.htm

http://www.jang.com.pk/jang/jun2010-daily/15-06-2010/u34808.htm

http://www.jang.com.pk/jang/jun2010-daily/15-06-2010/u34782.htm

http://www.bbc.co.uk/urdu/pakistan/2010/06/100615_pak_student_return_kyrgystan.shtml

http://www.jang.com.pk/jang/jun2010-daily/15-06-2010/u34786.htm

http://www.jang.com.pk/jang/jun2010-daily/15-06-2010/u34829.htm

http://www.bbc.co.uk/urdu/world/2010/06/100615_kyrgystan_un_violence.shtml

" As if Hell Fell on Me,"

FLASHBACK: Millions of Pakistanis live in a "human rights-free zone" in the country's north-west, Amnesty International says.

According to the report:
“Residents of tribal areas face Taliban abuse and get no protection from the government, the rights group alleges. In a report, it says the Taliban secured their rule by killing elders and torturing teachers and aid workers….over one million people have been displaced by fighting between the Pakistani military and the Taliban in the tribal areas bordering Afghanistan. …Nearly four million people are effectively living under the Taliban in north-west Pakistan without rule of law and effectively abandoned by the Pakistani government," said Claudio Cordone, Amnesty's interim secretary general…”
Statistics in this report are exactly true...rest of the thing is a propaganda report ...issued with vested interests at a time when it was not needed at all. just to pave the way for more drone attacks in north waziristan...where people n tribal leaders support army in favor of their people n where government has a deep eye on the matters...rather Pakistani media is one to bring the issue in lime light n keeps knocking at the conscience of leaders not to ignore the volcanic turmoil of tribal areas…
The report quotes
“The report quotes a teacher, who fled the Swat valley with his family in March 2009, describing how the Taliban operated.
"[The Taliban] took over my school and started to teach children about how to fight in Afghanistan. They kicked out the girls from school, told the men to grow their beards, threatened anybody they didn't like."
The teacher said the government failed to protect them.
"What's the point of having this huge army if it can't even protect us against a group of brutal fanatics?"
The point missed in this report, as per local media reports n interviews, is after army’s intervention in Swat Valley most of the attacks were targeted at army n soldiers were beheaded brutally , n people were wishing a phosphorus free valley regardless of the Discrimination between Talibans n Army, a real step toward normalcy BBc reports people teaching youngsters “ how to fight and attack” but missed to mention the Local Millitia who fought against these terrorist

The 130-page Amnesty report, As if Hell Fell on Me, was based on nearly 300 interviews with residents of the Federally Administered Tribal Areas (Fata) and the surrounding areas

Yes government is to blame to remain ignorant initially of the rooting organized force of Talibanization who took advantage of the fact that since 1993 there was no law enforcing Institute in those areas, neither government nor the qazi courts…”so people needed any system to settle the disputes any way…Talibans exploited the very facts; lawlessness, helplessness, illiteracy n poverty coupled with religion, to accomplish l their inhuman, non Islamic self centered desires n game of power. For recruitment of man power we say “yes as it is v easy to beguile innocent simple illiterate people in name of Islam so Taliban used the same tactics n motivated them to b “ghazis or shuhdas” to fight injustice or just allured them with money n prosperous future for children and family.
But from where did they got financial aid, latest imported weapons n all other support
Not to deny the fact that every body including government was silent, so held answerable, when suddenly “Madrassas “esp. in poverty stricken areas emerged as mushrooms or marble in swat was being sold to gather money or to answer the question that how come they got weapon n money??? Government and many skeptic minds know the answers of so many so n so questions but their lips are zipped because it hurls the reports and names of foreign hands, ruling black sheep, or the whole international game to sabotage sovereignty n existence of Pakistan as a result of international conspiracy with the help of state and non state actors,. The revelations that even government never dare spread in airs
Pakistani military spokesman Athar Abbas dismissed the report, describing it as "factually incorrect". He said that tribal elders supported the army's action to bring stability, particularly to the Swat region. "Local journalists as well as foreign journalists who have been visiting Swat, talking to the people, the elders, the notables, the locals there, they have endorsed the contribution of the military in bringing normalcy and protecting the people," he told the BBC.
Yes as per amnesty international report government n ngos are lagging behind in reconstruction of the effected areas and the rehabilitation is being done at snail’s pace withn so many stories of corruption. But to be practical every person is claiming that the respective elected leaders are ignoring him, this is not the case only with tribal people

The part of this bbc report that is totally non controversial is tha “
Amnesty has documented what many civilians in north-west Pakistan have often been scared to openly say, the BBC's Aleem Maqbool reports from Islamabad. The report talks of systematic human rights abuses by the Taliban and accuses militants of increasing the likelihood of civilian casualties by dispersing themselves among civilians during clashes with government forces. But it also accuses the Pakistani army of not doing enough to avoid civilian casualties in its operations against militants, and the government of neglecting the basic needs of the millions of people living in the frontier regions close to Afghanistan. Amnesty has appealed to both the Taliban and the Pakistani government to end human rights abuses in north-west Pakistan.
The 130-page Amnesty report, As if Hell Fell on Me, was based on nearly 300 interviews with residents of the Federally Administered Tribal Areas (Fata) and the surrounding areas.has also called on Islamabad to reform the Pakistani constitution, which excludes the Fata from the legal and parliamentary system of the country
Is Pakistan that much rich country to nurture all these fund aided terrorism or does Pakistan is that much foolish to allow all these to become a prey of world’s criticism as a terrorist country despite the fact Pakistan has sacrificed n done a lot in the name of war on terror. The worst to mention is the loss of support of own people especially the ones living in war zones and preys of drone attacks government n army, who denied in frustration every ruling thing either army or Talibans or government because what they were deprived of was respect as loyal citizen ,peace and prosperity.’s Report capturing all these and especially about the havoc of drone attacks violating Geneva Convention, human rights n country’s sovereignty any way??? Where was Red Cross to announce the effected areas as war zone to gather international aid n funding??? Where is Amnesty International,s report on these issues by the way ????

FLASHBACK 3."SWAT DISPLACED" /"AS IF HELL FELL UPON ME"

PESHAWAR, Pakistan, May 25, 2009 (AFP) - Pakistan's military
said Monday it could take up to 10 days to wrest back control of
Swat's Taliban-held capital, as the number of people feeling the
northwest offensive rose to 2.38 million.
Ground forces are fighting street-by-street with Taliban
fighters in Mingora, the business and administrative hub of the
scenic Swat region which has been ripped apart by a two-year
insurgency by the Islamist extremists.
Security forces launched their assault across three districts in
late April, as Taliban fighters bent on expanding their control and
introducing a harsh brand of Islamic law advanced to within 100
kilometres (60 miles) of Islamabad.
"It may take seven to 10 days to clear Mingora town of
militants," military spokesman Major General Athar Abbas told AFP.
"The operation may be a little slow to avoid civilian
casualties, damage and destruction to property. There are also
improvised explosive devices (IEDs) planted in Mingora, and we have
to clear these IEDs as well."
The onslaught across the northwest has sent panicked civilians
fleeing their homes, and the UN refugee agency and government
officials said Monday that authorities had registered about 2.38
million displaced people since May 2.
Security forces have said a number of key squares and
intersections in Mingora are now under their control, as the
offensive enters a crucial phase.
A military official who did not want to be named said that six
militants died overnight in Kabal town about 20 kilometres (12
miles) west of Mingora.
"They were trying to plant a bomb outside a mosque but it
exploded on them," the official told AFP. "The dead bodies of six
armed militants are still lying near the mosque."
He said Pakistan's security forces were still battling on the
streets of Mingora, which has seen Taliban fighters armed with guns
and rocket launchers patrol the streets in the past weeks, according
to residents who fled.
"Militants are retreating from different fronts but we are still
receiving fire from some pockets of resistance," the official said.
Helicopter gunships also shelled militant hideouts in Peochar
and Malam Jabba -- mountainous areas northwest of Mingora which are
Taliban bastions.
Reporters and humanitarian workers have mostly been barred from
visiting the conflict zone and telephone land lines and mobile
signals appear to have been cut in Mingora, making the military's
claims impossible to verify.
Pakistan says more than 1,100 militants and 66 soldiers have
died in the offensive launched in the districts of Lower Dir on
April 26, Buner on April 28 and Swat on May 8, but those tolls
cannot be confirmed independently.
Information Minister Qamar Zaman Kaira told reporters that the
government was doing all it could to care for the massive number of
uprooted people.
"Around 2.3 million people have been registered as displaced
persons so far but this figure is not final," he said, adding that
nearly 200,000 are living in camps while the rest are huddled with
relatives in cramped homes.
The newly-displaced join more than 550,000 people who fled
similar battles last year and rights groups have warned that it is
Pakistan's biggest movement of people since partition from India in
1947.
Fears are also growing for between 10,000 and 20,000 civilians
that the military say are still trapped with scant food and medical
supplies in Mingora, which usually has a population of 300,000.
Security forces say 15,000 troops are now fighting 1,500 to
2,000 "hardcore militants" in Swat.
The extremists' advance came despite a February deal with a
pro-Taliban cleric which put three million people in the northwest
under sharia law in a bid to end the two-year Taliban insurgency --
a deal which now lies in tatter
FLASHBACK 3."SWAT DISPLACED" /"AS IF HELL FELL UPON ME"

एपीसोड़े २:फ्लाश्बैक" FLASHBACK,AS IF HELL FELL UPON ME

YAR HUSSAIN CAMP, Pakistan, May 23, 2009 (reported by some foriegn news agency) -

Nabila Bibi sits in a tent in the blistering heat thinking about the dolls she left behind at home in the Pakistani mountains where the army and Taliban rebels are killing each other.
Rosy-cheeked Nabila understands nothing about Islamist insurgents and Pakistan's latest military offensive against them,which the United Nations said has displaced around 1.5 million people this month alone.
She is more concerned about her "lonely" dolls.
"I am very upset to be here. I feel all alone because my dolls are not with me. Is there someone who can bring these dolls from my house?" Nabila asks her elder sister.
Nabila, 12, and her family were living outside the town of Mingora in the northwest Swat valley until they fled to the Yar Hussain camp in fear of their lives.
The dusty camp was set up by the government in North West Frontier Province (NWFP) with the help of the UN refugee agency on the outskirts of the town of Swabi, sheltering about 1,200 families in the same number of tents.
"It is very hot here. I have no friends nor is there any proper playing field like the one I had in front of my house," said Nabila, who is taking classes at a temporary school in the camp.
The UN children's agency UNICEF, deeply concerned about the psychological toll on children displaced by the operation to flush out the militants, said it was providing education and recreation in
13 camps where families are holed up.
"It is vital for children to cope with the trauma of displacement," UNICEF spokeswoman Antonia Paradela told AFP.
She said counselling services for women and children are available in all those camps, with trained staff identifying
children who have been damaged mentally and helping them cope with a predicament which is none of their doing.
"Children have also been provided toys, pencils and drawing paper to help them regain confidence," Paradela said.
But for all these initiatives, many youngsters in Yar Hussain look unsettled and some plain unhappy.
"I miss my friends with whom I used to play cricket. I am a big fan of leg spinner cricketing hero Shahid Afridi," said Nauman Ali, 16, a carpenter from Mingora, Swat's main town.
"I wish he would visit me in this camp. I like him because he is also a good batsman. He has a lovely style of hitting sixes.
"Nauman looked sceptical when asked if he thought he would go
home soon.
"I really don't know when I will be able to go back home and
play cricket with my friends."
Jawad Khan, a third grade pupil, said he wanted to become a doctor.
"How can I continue my studies in an area where bombs and renades explode daily? Stories about a group of people who slit the throats of their brothers scare me a lot," said Jawad, apparently referring to Taliban rebels.
"I have a few friends from my area in this camp and we all agree these are dirty people," he added while carrying his half-naked infant sister.
Six-year-old Nadia Khan, meandering with her mother through the camp, where long queues of men and children formed at lunch time, repeatedly begged to be let out the camp.
"I want to go home and play with my friends, please take me back," she pleaded with her mother in broken Urdu.
Despite severe irritation in her eyes caused by a dust storm, Nadia was hungry -- even if the dish of spicy rice with chickpeas was hardly mouth-watering.
To help alleviate their suffering, Pakistani charity Society for the Protection of the Rights of the Child (SPARC) plans to create special play areas.
"It is a major disaster. Children in the camps need our help to come out of the psychological stress," spokesman for SPARC, Kashif
Mirza, told AFP.
"We plan to create play areas and organise painting competitions
in the camps for displaced children," he added ahead of a SPARC fund-raising campaign.
Shahid Khan, an eighth grade student, said the fighting had "shattered" his dreams.
But he was resolute nonetheless.
"I want to become an army officer. I like their uniform, I like their discipline," he said."I am determined to continue my studies. If this is not possible in Mingora, I will ask my father to send me to another city where I can complete my studies and join the army."
FLASHBACK by BLOGGER: NOUMANA YASEEN

Glass hold' reveals personality

Drinking types
'Glass hold' reveals personality

Which type are you?

The way you hold your glass can reveal much more than you might realise, a psychologist has warned.
Dr Glenn Wilson, a consultant psychologist, observed the body language of 500 drinkers and divided them into eight personality types.
These were the flirt, the gossip, fun lover, wallflower, the ice-queen, the playboy, Jack-the-lad and browbeater.
Dr Wilson, who carried out the work for the Walkabout bar chain, said glass hold "reflected the person you are".
The types of drinker are:
THE FLIRT
This is usually a woman, who holds her glass with dainty, splayed fingers and uses it in a provocative way.
She may position it over her cleavage so as to draw attention to her attributes or peer over the rim to make eye contact when taking a sip - and she may "tease" the rim of the glass with her finger, perhaps dipping it into the drink and sucking it dry.
THE GOSSIP
Again, usually a woman who clusters together with her friends. She may be talking about other people, and can be critical. She holds a wine glass by the bowl and uses it to gesticulate and make points in conversation.
She is inclined to lean over her drink, in towards others so as to speak confidentially. This person already has a close-knit social group with little inclination to extend it, therefore advances from outsiders are not usually welcome.
THE FUN-LOVER
This type of drinker could be a man or a woman. They tend to be sociable and convivial and "like a laugh".
They take short swigs from bottled drinks so they don't miss out on chipping in with the conversation.
The bottle is held loosely at its shoulder for ease. This type of person is always happy to extend their social circle. The best way to approach them therefore is to leap directly into light, good-humoured conversation and make them laugh.
THE WALLFLOWER
Usually a shy, submissive person who holds the glass protectively, not letting go, as though afraid somebody will take it away.
Palms are kept hidden and the glass is used as a social crutch - the drink is never quite finished, with a mouthful left in case of emergency. The drink is small - maybe half a pint of lager for a man.

When you're in a crowded bar, often all you have to go on is body language
Dr Glenn Wilson
It may be drunk through a straw, which is fidgeted with, and used to stir the drink between sips.
The style and pace of drinking is an echo of those around them - very little is initiated.
This individual needs to be approached in a gentle, sensitive way, with perhaps a few understated compliments to build self-confidence, but may eventually warm to overtures.
THE ICE-QUEEN
This is a mainly female type whose natural style is cold and defensive.
She drinks from a wine glass, or a short glass, which is held firmly in a barrier position across the body so as to deter intimate approaches.
It is usually a waste of time approaching this woman; she may be ready with a castrating put-down.
THE PLAYBOY
This man is active and self-confident; a "Don Juan"-type seducer.
He uses his, usually long, glass or bottle as a phallic prop, playing with it suggestively. He is inclined to be possessive, and can be tactile with his female companions.
THE JACK-THE-LAD
This "peacock" is conscious of his image and will drink a bottled beer, or cider.
He is inclined to be confident and arrogant, and can be territorial in his gestures, spreading himself over as much space as possible, for example, pushing the glass well away from himself and leaning back in his chair.
If he is drinking with friends, he would be unlikely to welcome approaches from outside the group, unless sycophantic and ego-enhancing.
THE BROWBEATER
Again usually male, he prefers large glasses, or bottles, which he uses as symbolic weapons, firmly grasped, and gesticulating in a threatening, "in the face" kind of way.
Something of a know-it-all, he can come across as slightly hostile, even if only through verbal argument, or jokes targeted at others. He should be approached with great care, or not at all.
'An unconscious thing'
Dr. Wilson said: "The simple act of holding a drink displays a lot more about us than we realise - or might want to divulge.
"When you're in a crowded bar, often all you have to go on is body language.
"To a large extent, it's an unconscious thing and just reflects the person you are and the type of social relationships you have."
But he warned: "The next time you're in a bar, it might be worth thinking about what you're saying to the people around you, just by the way you're holding your glass."

Drinking types :Glass hold' reveals personality
Which type are you?

The way you hold your glass can reveal much more than you might realise, a psychologist has warned.
Dr Glenn Wilson, a consultant psychologist, observed the body language of 500 drinkers and divided them into eight personality types.
These were the flirt, the gossip, fun lover, wallflower, the ice-queen, the playboy, Jack-the-lad and browbeater.
Dr Wilson, who carried out the work for the Walkabout bar chain, said glass hold "reflected the person you are".
The types of drinker are:
THE FLIRT
This is usually a woman, who holds her glass with dainty, splayed fingers and uses it in a provocative way.
She may position it over her cleavage so as to draw attention to her attributes or peer over the rim to make eye contact when taking a sip - and she may "tease" the rim of the glass with her finger, perhaps dipping it into the drink and sucking it dry.
THE GOSSIP
Again, usually a woman who clusters together with her friends. She may be talking about other people, and can be critical. She holds a wine glass by the bowl and uses it to gesticulate and make points in conversation.
She is inclined to lean over her drink, in towards others so as to speak confidentially. This person already has a close-knit social group with little inclination to extend it, therefore advances from outsiders are not usually welcome.
THE FUN-LOVER
This type of drinker could be a man or a woman. They tend to be sociable and convivial and "like a laugh".
They take short swigs from bottled drinks so they don't miss out on chipping in with the conversation.
The bottle is held loosely at its shoulder for ease. This type of person is always happy to extend their social circle. The best way to approach them therefore is to leap directly into light, good-humoured conversation and make them laugh.
THE WALLFLOWER
Usually a shy, submissive person who holds the glass protectively, not letting go, as though afraid somebody will take it away.
Palms are kept hidden and the glass is used as a social crutch - the drink is never quite finished, with a mouthful left in case of emergency. The drink is small - maybe half a pint of lager for a man.

When you're in a crowded bar, often all you have to go on is body language
Dr Glenn Wilson
It may be drunk through a straw, which is fidgeted with, and used to stir the drink between sips.
The style and pace of drinking is an echo of those around them - very little is initiated.
This individual needs to be approached in a gentle, sensitive way, with perhaps a few understated compliments to build self-confidence, but may eventually warm to overtures.
THE ICE-QUEEN
This is a mainly female type whose natural style is cold and defensive.
She drinks from a wine glass, or a short glass, which is held firmly in a barrier position across the body so as to deter intimate approaches.
It is usually a waste of time approaching this woman; she may be ready with a castrating put-down.
THE PLAYBOY
This man is active and self-confident; a "Don Juan"-type seducer.
He uses his, usually long, glass or bottle as a phallic prop, playing with it suggestively. He is inclined to be possessive, and can be tactile with his female companions.
THE JACK-THE-LAD
This "peacock" is conscious of his image and will drink a bottled beer, or cider.
He is inclined to be confident and arrogant, and can be territorial in his gestures, spreading himself over as much space as possible, for example, pushing the glass well away from himself and leaning back in his chair.
If he is drinking with friends, he would be unlikely to welcome approaches from outside the group, unless sycophantic and ego-enhancing.
THE BROWBEATER
Again usually male, he prefers large glasses, or bottles, which he uses as symbolic weapons, firmly grasped, and gesticulating in a threatening, "in the face" kind of way.
Something of a know-it-all, he can come across as slightly hostile, even if only through verbal argument, or jokes targeted at others. He should be approached with great care, or not at all.
'An unconscious thing'
Dr. Wilson said: "The simple act of holding a drink displays a lot more about us than we realise - or might want to divulge.
"When you're in a crowded bar, often all you have to go on is body language.
"To a large extent, it's an unconscious thing and just reflects the person you are and the type of social relationships you have."
But he warned: "The next time you're in a bar, it might be worth thinking about what you're saying to the people around you, just by the way you're holding your glass."

रिपोर्ट:जापान तोप्पेद वर्ल्ड'स लोंगेविटी रतिंग्स

Japan topped the world longevity ratings,




TOKYO :Japan on Friday welcomed the news it had topped the
world longevity ratings, but with its citizens living increasingly
longer lives it may soon become hard for the government to find
enough young taxpayers to support them.
The statistics for 2007 published on Thursday by the World Health
Organization put Japan on top of the longevity list, reporting that
the average life expectancy was almost 83 years _ 86 years for women
and 79 years for men _ up from 81 years in 2000.
``A steady increase of Japan's longevity reflects good medical
care, nutrition and successful economic development, and that alone
is a good thing,'' Norie Handa, a Cabinet Office official in charge
of aging issues, said Friday. ``What we really have to look at is
whether we can live long in good health, and peacefully.''
However, in a country where the birth rate has been declining for
decades _ the population fell by 51,000 last year, the sharpest
decline ever _ a longer life expectancy means a disproportionately
large elderly population.
The number of people over the age of 65 has reached 22.5 percent
of the population and in a dozen years will likely to surge to
nearly 30 percent, according to government estimates.
By contrast, the percentage of children in Japan is expected to
fall to below 11 percent in the next decade or so from the current
13 percent. The country already has the smallest percentage of
children among 31 countries, trailing Germany and Italy, according
to the Ministry of Internal Affairs and Communications report.
Children make up about 20 percent of the U.S. population and 17
percent in neighboring South Korea.
The graying of society and the low birth rate is expected to
strain government services and pension programs, as well as lead to
labor shortages in the near future.
Crimes, alcoholism and suicides among the elderly are also a
growing problem because of low income, unstable employment and poor
living conditions. Weakening ties with relatives and neighbors have
also been exacerbated by a shortage of nursing homes, thus putting a
major burden on younger relatives.
Government efforts to boost the number of new babies have been
unsuccessful thus far, and lawmakers have long been reluctant to
relax the country's strict immigration laws.
``As we expect the further aging of the society, we still have a
lot to do to catch up,'' Handa acknowledged.
As part of his recent economic stimulus measures, Prime Minister
Taro Aso called for new financial support for child birth and an
expansion of neonatal intensive care units. His administration also
introduced a health insurance system last year to deal with
ballooning medical costs for people over the age of 75.
Officials have stepped up programs that encourage older citizens
to stay active and continue working. The government is gradually
extending the retirement age to 65 from 60, and is even pushing for
a further extension to 70.



check out for more details :

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/36936620/ns/health-aging/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oldest_people

http://www.worldoldestpeople.info/

वहत इस फेमिनिटी ...माय विएव्स ओं feminism

Once in a conference on gender issues n petriarchy i said..
heroism has no gender..a female can b a hero far much better than a man...indeed being so much dedicated n diversified she is as maintaining the whole house, family than working outside that too keeping the softness n ... See Morefeminish attitude in touch...while working in office i would love to b respected as a women with all my innocence , softness n limits (crossing which is harrasment ) n i want all equal rights but when it comes to duty performance ..decision making n right to choose..i dont wanna be judged as women...than i am equally responsible n legible human being only....:) n if any one denies oit than he is a conservative petriarchan n who ever accepts it ..is a feminist .... :))
i can explain it further by Donne
in one of his poem..he says that no doubt man is active n woman is passive..as compared n contrasted with a Compass...whose fixed hand is women & rotating hand( all in action ) is man...but rotating hand cant move n complete action without falling apart untill fixed hand is fixed there for him.. :)
so women is ... See Moresource of all energy , posiotivity . insipiration n firmed actions or loyalities n emotins of a man.... a complementary part whether active passive...n not to miss petriarchy too is successful becuse of objecting womenb cx they need her any way ....and what is to worry or negate in it is going away from laws of Nature...
as in all other worlds..esp animal..the male partners has to prove themselves as perfect match for a female by competing .fighting till death, presenting food, raising highest voices building a home, or simply by dancing ( as in pea cocks pic ) before
female members to be accepted n get approval from her n how inspiring is the fac that female members of their society has all the rights to choose n decide...where they as couple share burdens n divide work- including searching for food n taking care of chicks _without any gender discrimination or division discussion...
sometimes i wonder why a, besides some rare cases, it is a man who can never move without a women.. . either as a mother, sister wife or companion..after the death of wife mostly they marry again in name of children';s betterment ..then how come widows along with laboring outside brings the children up all alone not marrying again..??? this shows the strength n power of a women as hero, active social member n as a most multi dimensional personalty that too retaining the feminine recognition ...a source of solace , companionship, comfort but more a power, strength n inspiration

DEGRADATION OF THE MESSIHAS(DOCTORS) AND THE MEDIA

DEGRADATION OF THE MESSIHAS(DOCTORS) AND THE MEDIA


Member of the Society of Professional Journalist believe that Public enlightment is the forerunner of justice and the foundation of democracy. The duty of the journalist and media is to further those ends by seeking truth providing a fair and comprehensive account of events and issues. Conscientious journalist from all the media and specialists. strive to serve the public with thoroughness and honesty. Professional integrity is the criteria or corner stone for a journalist’s credibility. Member of the journalist’s society share a dedication to ethical behavior and adopt this code to declare the society’s principle & standards of practices.
But the mass media (especially the Electronic One) has taken new dimensions adopting some modified, compromised code of ethics. Media’s the reckless race to break the news first. , Competition to show exclusive stories & an attempt to reach the common man’s door steps even in bed rooms without considering privileged ethical consideration has changed the attitudes and temperament of people on many levels. On one had it has made people an addict of anchorocracy in so called news analysis debates but shockingly on the other hand people have learnt to manipulate media for their own purposes ,wishes and gains as an outcome of the change towards social norms…….
Recently, after the incidents of the baby Emane’s death or maid Shazia’s case esp. the medical report, the incident of torture on a print media journalist by the doctors has been a hot debate, resulting into the case filed against 50 persons & dismissal of the MS of the hospital …the common point in all these n many such like incident is the media
Media is educating & empowering people on the contrary people have come to realization that they can mislead or misguide certain channels lacking investigative journalism.as they can .create hype out of a common thing.
This frankness and generalization has catered a change in mob psychology, mentality within socially accepted and respected limit giving way to a new mania among people and that is to get a live coverage or press conference of their personal disputes and misconducts. or to threat people to drag them on channels along with a mania to protest

And the virulent example to support this preposition is (after a baby girls death coverage on media, as a case of doctors negligence).”: the incident of degrading the messiahs” i.e. an attack on two lady doctors (house surgeon) in a government hospital when the frustrated ignorant relatives of a dead patients used abusive language & kicked them threatening to drag them on to channels as murderer
Giving the details the doctors told “it so happened that patience was suffering from a disease in which patients vital organs gradually fail & stop functioning leading to death. The relatives had signed the papers to take the responsibility of the consequences as the doctors had explained them each n every complexity in patient’s treatment... But even than when after 10 hrs of cares by the doctors at night. shift when patient got expired ,after her death a grief stricken relative got up in anger and attempted to punch down the lady doctor saying that ”you doctors are murderers, parasites & good for nothing, u have murdered baby Emaane too and now we will sue you in court after a press conference on media “
The doctors on recounting the event told “: for the first time in our life we were dead threatened”. They tried to call a cop from nearby police station but of no avail.
Their sheer complains with media empowering people in a negative way ignoring the investigation became the inspiration of this write up. A discussion with some of other doctors revealed the other side of picture especially the endless duties of doctors, sheer lack of facilities in hospitals, the controversial health bill n bloomy status of foreign doctors as compared to gloomy conditions of docs & hospitals. The only e recent good news is that assembly has passed a bill regarding quacks, hakeems & homeopathic doctors that they can’t write doctors with their names.
Dr. Fozia and Dr. Gohar said that the devotion, dedication respect and credibility have been over shadowed in perspective of some genuine mishandled negligence cases resulting into death. No doubt rotten eggs or black sheep do exist every where in every profession but this does not allow people to generalize the attitude ignoring the bare facts lying in root causes. Now a days doctors are under constant pressures after the famous negligence case. & health bill Rules and regulations are further tightened in case of internees and house surgeon’s who already never operates without senior doctor and medical officer (M.O) as head.
Doctors duties are arranged in such a way that 24/7 doctors remain available in hospitals even than there exists the obstacles of inadequate facilities n machinery copying with which they have to save patient’s lives. They told their 1once during an operation in a famous hospital there was no arrangements of emergency light or after power failure a patient in dire need of a ventilator but the only ventilator in hospital was not free. And so on ….
People are frustrated and coupled with illiteracy & power in hand they have smashed the basic respect for doctor’s profession and even for women. Dr. Fozia told about a TV reporter accompanying a patient who offered her a bounty and free advertisement for her clinic, in case if she favors him in priorities out of her way. The TV reporter must be ignorant of the fact that adds are illegal for doctors. But what about the ads of homoeopathic doctors and quacks, esp. on cable, who are openly playing with the hopes n lives of people claiming that they can cure each n every sickness or disease but they always remain un noticed

People must have fresh in their memories. the famous incident of Tippu Truckan wala, when the friends of injured Tippu made all the doctor host age and stopped them from attending other patients even emergency was not allowed., told Dr.,Fozia on recounting some other incidents.
In the daily hectic r routine the over burdened doctors have to face the attitude and misbehavior problem as well when the attendants of patient irritate or threat them. On the contrary they themselves remain negligent and careless towards patient but blame doctors. Especially in the criminal case when relatives may come with loaded guns and even without shirts showing their blood smeared belly or so on. An analysis of the conditions of doctor & hospital showed some shocking statistics such as:
After daylong duties and might shifts doctors do not have proper place to rest or sit for a well. while The busiest government hospital(Mayo Hospital) has 2000 beds and daily 350 -4000 operation are performed daily whereas more then 4000 people from all over Pakistan come their so doctors have to work in extra hours as well.
In foreign countries nursing is the most respectable and highly paid profession but hare they are laughing stuff to cherish. In foreign countries chemist prescribe the medicine and take care of its quality but here fake, drugs or expired medicines easily jeopardize doctor’s effort to save patients. In contrast with the ratio of one doctor per 300 people in Europe, there is one doctor per 1300 people in Pakistan. so, forcing doctors to work for 14 to 16 hours daily. But their salaries are not in accordance with their duties that too without allowances available to government official. Young doctors Association has succeeded in gaining a rise in salary paid to house jobeons.
In Britain 8.5% & in USA 16% of budget is allocated for health whereas Pakistan is spending only 1.4 % of the total expenditure.
Then there comes the problem of lack of hospitals, lack of beds & nurses in hospitals as per ratio only one nurse one bed is available for 1666 persons.
The Young Doctors Association (YDA) has moved a message that reads as:
Such ka Saath (to follow the truth) has been claimed by almost every media. But the question is that do we know what the truth n reality is? In order to save the dying patients at end stages doctors serve them in emergencies even 48 hrs continually. We know the complications & meager chances of survival. Even than we never give up. And the reward is that we are being labeled as murderers. Are we murderers? We work on salaries less than even a constable with no facilities at hand.
We clean the patients and do jobs that even their blood relations avoid doing. But doctors never expect or want a reward from the patient as we are serving humanity and ALLAH will repay us for this .Are we murderers? We will continue to serve relying on Allah Almighty is grace but at least stop blaming us as murderers in case we too are helpless before the fate n will of Allah “
Hence in the light of above mentioned facts its quite clear that doctor’s themselves are failing so much hardships and problem PMA / PMDC (Pakistan Medical Board & Dental Association) should take immediate measures to cope with the problem of doctors too, besides NGO’s & dignitaries should be moved to construct hospital and donate funds. They may get a ward constructed in the name of their dear one; salaries of doctors should be increased so there they won’t be attracted towards private sectors, most important of all media, remaining investigative & conscious about ethical codes for journalists, should play the role as a trendsetter and educator than to become a threat and exploiter. It needs to be harnessed .Now question is
”whether media is to support the media or media should support the truth n nothing else “

DEMOLISHED LAHORE

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After almost a month long roads block n sticking in traffic jams I took a sigh of relief on open entry in Davis Road, the only road to my office.Razing the multi storied Plazas , constructed in violation of building bylaws n approval of structural designs, is being considered as the worst ever decision of Punjab Govt especially in the time of crisis & financial loss due to deficit budget of 80 billions besides it stayed a constant reason for bottle necked traffic jams n wastage of several working hours. After all ours is not a Western country where people use to count time in terms of dollars. The funniest thing is the blocked roads are being used car parking for visitors in press club…what an alternative social utility Demolishing illegal plazas n buildings in garb of SC orders is a controversial act as, like so many others, people have so many reservations n doubts regarding the transparency n fair campaign credibility of razing the buildings. Previously some influential builders including the brother in law of federal finance minister Shakut Treen secretly got stay orders n convinced the bulldozer persons to raze the building safely not making enough loss. Similarly there is no guarantee whether LDA has favored some or not rather random news stories & a survey has much to tell … According to media reports Supreme Court has ordered to demolish the plazas worth Rs 700 billion n around 1 trillion has to be spent in razing these unfortunate high rise buildings so Rs1.7 trillion rupee are at stake along with the fate of poor owners n shopkeepers as the builders have made their way after earning huge profits. Let’s see the effectees can get their checks, given by the authorities, cashed to write a new history. On behalf of the owners n builders, noted lawyer Aitzaz Ahsan challenged the SC decision as based on wrong reports n survey made by LDA n that Govt is applying a particular decision on generals. But since SC dismissed the Plea LDA & CDLG has gone rampage, after secretly preparing a list of 8000 buildings, in razing the plazas that if continued on targeted 70 % of the buildings, The capital city will present an after war sight as city of of rubbles. The most targeted area is Gulberg…total buildings to be demolished partly (402) or completely (149) but then commissioned waived the punishment for 160 buildings. In the report commission recommended 559 buildings & LDA, CDGL prepared a list of 291 buildings but surprisingly or most aptly shockingly 260 buildings including in ShahAalmi market has been skipped from the list All Parties Conference has issued a unanimous decision to stop the demolishing campaign n has warned of sit in demos in favor of their demands…Government wants to set a precedence to ban such violations but it could have been done by punishing heavily through pockets that is by charging fines that could fetch millions (at least 50 millions) to stabilize the drowning economy & further by charging amount to legalize these illegal buildings. Govt has arrested some LDA officials as well on negligence n corruption charges but it is of no use as it’s a golden rule of “repeated implementations are necessary than one long order n ordinance” that has been violated. So government should also share the responsibility n should save the beautiful capital city …for further updates seehttp://www.nation.com.pk/pakistan-news-newspaper-daily-english-online/Regional/Lahore/08-Oct-2008/CM-not-directed-LDA-to-demolish-buildingsalso seehttp://www.nation.com.pk/pakistan-news-newspaper-daily-english-online/print/Regional/27-Jun-2008/45-highrise-buildings-to-be-completely-demolishedhttp://pakteahouse.wordpress.com/2009/07/18/lahore-development-authoritys-actions-illegal-lahore-bachao-tehreek/http://realestatepropertyinpakistan.wordpress.com/2009/01/17/plazas-to-be-demolished-in-jubilee-town-of-lahore/

year in review

so much stuff n important things are piled upto b transferred on blog
in form of a survey of the most happening incidents n thoughts regarding last year n new year....but being preoccupied in double hectic jobs really cant manage time ...so following is a preview of  departed 2008 as per web surveys http://yearinreview.yahoo.com/ http://yearinreview.yahoo.com/2009/bloggersroll http://video.yahoo.com/network/100000089?l=6935751